I’ve had a change of heart this past month, and it’s been with me focusing on gratitude.
And granted, this isn’t the first time I’ve thought about being grateful, but I did notice a simple yet significant difference between gratefulness and ungratefulness. And I am convinced that being grateful is more of a state of mind.
The difference between ungratefulness and gratitude is this – when you are grateful, you are content. You are appreciative. And you’re likely to focus on the good instead of the bad.
When you’re ungrateful or you don’t take into account the things you ought to be grateful for, it’s much easier to remain on the end of spectrum where things are never enough.The end where we take stock of all that’s gone wrong and things we wished were different.
“What separates privilege from entitlement is Gratitude”
But if we flip the coin to the side where gratitude is customary, we find appreciation for the things we have. This includes the seemingly mundane things which we often consider the default i.e. air to breathe, people who care about us, the ability to use our senses etc. Which will eventually scale all the way up to the ability to dream, to live and to be thrive.
I know this may all comes across as a bit cliché, but I find that there is always something to be grateful for. It may well be the plain opportunity to crave a particular meal, dish or dessert and being able to honour it – I suppose it is in the ‘small’ things.
At times, we can mistaken gratitude with the way we think about happiness. You know when we say (or at least think) ‘I’ll be happy when I have xyz’. Or we can only be grateful when we’ve accomplished what, in our eyes is deemed worthy. But I think it works the opposite way. From the here and now, and finding value and appreciation for the things you have now.
What is gratitude?
A quick Ecosia search (that’s caught on right?) and the definition of gratitude reads as “a feeling of appreciation or thankfulness”. Just thought I’d add this to offer a little background. And though it says feeling, I prefer to view gratitude as a state of mind or way of being, if you will. Because if we always rely on how we ‘feel’, we will fail to see the things that are worthy of our appreciation.
Where to begin?
Now, it wouldn’t be fair for me to talk to you, and forget that as humans we share experiences. So for those of you wondering “how do I start being more grateful?” – here is, what I think is a great (and inexpensive) way to get the ball rolling.
Take a look at this picture for a moment:
Take these two coins as the first things that come to mind when you think of what you are most grateful for. And if you struggle to think of anything,remember as we spoke about earlier – to start small.
If anything resonated with you, or you’re in the mood to share, let me know below the three things you’re most grateful for and we can continue the conversation there!
I’ll catch you in the next tea round! The conversation doesn’t have to end there, let me know below what 3 things you’re most grateful for or stay connected on the socials below!